I feel like I’m in a perpetual state of not good enough. How about you? It really gets me down a lot of the time. I feel like no matter how hard I work, or how much I prepare, or how badly I want to give my everything – there is always something that holds me back or drags me down. I feel like the more I know God, the more I know about Him – the more ‘not good enough’ I feel.
I don’t think that it’s such a bad thing to always want to give more, do more, be more for Christ. I actually think it’s a good thing for me to feel that way about myself.
BUT…here’s where it becomes a not-so-good thing. My incredibly high standards that I set for myself (and never feel like I come close to achieving) are starting to color my opinions of others around me. I often expect everyone around me to aim for those impossible standards too, and when they don’t I get really frustrated. I KNOW it’s my own issue – and that I should only worry about myself, but have been really struggling with it lately.
In John 21, Jesus is asking Peter if he loves Him and Peter keeps saying yes – and Jesus keeps saying, then feed my sheep..then this happened…
20Peter turned and saw that the disciple whom Jesus loved was following them. (This was the one who had leaned back against Jesus at the supper and had said, “Lord, who is going to betray you?”) 21When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?”
22Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.”
It’s interesting that in the middle of the lesson that Jesus was trying to teach Peter – about how to love Him – he gets distracted by someone else around him and wants to know what Jesus wanted to do with him. Jesus says basically that it’s none of his business – and that all that should matter to Peter is what Peter will do. I have been focusing a lot on this passage lately and have been making huge efforts to focus on my service, my job, my responsibilities as a follower of Christ and not worrying about everyone else’s responsibilities. It’s a battle I struggle with almost daily – and I intend to win.
Jesus says to me today…’as for you, Kim…you must follow me.”
2 thoughts on “Not Good Enough”
Kim, I guess I needed to hear this, even Charly reminded me of this last night! 🙂 I alway hear wonderful things when you are singing, maybe one day I will get to be there when you do!
I struggled for most of my life with that false standard of perfectionism– and feeling like I was never good enough. When I realized that perfectionism was a curse, not a blessing, it opened my eyes to see that my impossibly high standard was not God’s standard. That sometimes God even delights when I make mistakes! and that when I try to be maintain a false perfectionistic standard, I am in a sense, trying to be God. I have found that living up to God’s standards means depending on him to be my strength and power, not depending on my own abilities. It means allowing God to be God, and not having to depend on myself.